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Scaffolding what a successful get-together looks like with a 5th grader - ADHD Dude -Ryan Wexelblatt

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ryan-wexelblatt-adhd-dude-hanging-out-scaffoldingWhen you have a narrow specialization as I do you see certain patterns, if you know what questions to ask.
One of the patterns I've seen over the years is that some boys do not want to invite friends over because it feels like too much pressure to have to entertain someone. This is not social anxiety, it's their difficulty with executive functioning-understanding how to structure get-togethers at home.
I've also seen many boys who (due to their difficulty with perspective-taking) will appear inconsiderate when a friend comes over. What that looks like is they have their own agenda and will not ask their friend what they want to do or do what's expected to help their guest feel comfortable. Some may even completely disengage while their friend is over to play video games on their one. Sadly, what this creates is a lot of one-time get-togethers that are not repeated.---------------------------------------------------------------------
Below, is an example of what I did with a 5th grader last week who was having a get-together at his house.
  • The first thing we do is create a "friend file" so there's a frame of reference to think about what their friend likes as that will help with making a "future plan for hanging out".
  • The next step is to create some scaffolding to help create a visual image of what we should do to be a good host.
  • The last thing I always discuss is about when you show your friend(s) that you're thinking about their thoughts you're helping them to feel comfortable at your house it will make it more likely that they'll want to get together again or reciprocate the get-together.
Here's what would not be helpful to this situation (keep in mind this contradicts what many professionals would tell you):
  • You directing the get together by creating a schedule/directing things.
  • "Hovering" during the get-together because you want to be able to correct your son and see/hear everything he is saying/doing.
  • Not giving them space or allowing them to work things out on their own if there's a disagreement.
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dianaschnuth
33 days ago
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“I’ve also seen many boys who (due to their difficulty with perspective-taking) will appear inconsiderate when a friend comes over. What that looks like is they have their own agenda and will not ask their friend what they want to do... Some may even completely disengage while their friend is over to play video games on their own.”
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Faking traffic on Google Maps with a wagon of 99 smartphones

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Google Maps incorporates data from smartphones to estimate traffic in any given location. Artist Simon Weckert used this tidbit to throw the statistical models off the scent. With a wagon of 99 smartphones, he turned roads red on Google Maps just by walking around.

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Man takes picture of himself every day for 20 years

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In 2007, Noah Kalina posted a time-lapse video showing a picture of himself every day for six years. Pop culture swallowed it up. There was even a Simpsons parody with Homer. After another six years, it was a video for twelve years’ worth of photos. Kalina has kept his everyday project going, and the above is the new time-lapse for two decades.

This brings back graduate school memories for me as I argued for personal data collection as a diary instead of just for quantified self. I often led with Kalina’s project as a primary example. He ages, his background changes, and his camera improves, but the angle stays the same.

It’s a very tiny window into his life, played out over time, but I bet for Kalina it means a bit more. [via kottke]

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Making painless guest wifi with QR codes

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You ever go to a friend’s house, need to send a photo to someone, and realize it’d be way faster if you were on their wifi network? Then you ask and the host goes yeah, join my (punny-named) network, and then you ask for the password and it’s like 25 random alphanumeric characters someone has to look up on the back of the router?

I didn’t know until recently that you can share wifi credentials with a QR code and it works natively in iOS 11+ and on android phones.

It’s a pretty slick operation, you just open your phone’s camera, point it at the QR code and tap the notification to instantly join the wifi. I’ve never actually enjoyed using a QR code before, but this saves a bunch of time and headaches because it’s totally instant.

People on Etsy sell signs like these custom made for you but when I couldn’t find one I quite liked, I set out to get my own made.

After some quick researching, I found you can make your own wifi QR codes at qifi.org. I exported the PDF printout, brought it into photoshop, and started making layouts using fonts I liked. Then I found a friend with a Glowforge, who redid the template in a vector app and we picked out a darker walnut wood to match my kitchen cabinets.

The end result is really nice. I used double-sided 3M tape to mount it above a wall switch near my front door, where we typically have a drink cart for guests, making it easy for them to join the network at a party without having to shout passwords across the house.

I was surprised it worked first try on a dark walnut wood, but QR codes are really forgiving and it’s ok if they’re low-contrast (I did this purposely to make it blend in with the wood more). And don’t worry, I’ve obscured bits of my SSID, password, and QR code so it shouldn’t actually function here, but when you’re a guest in my home, it all works in a flash.



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dianaschnuth
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Pretty sweet idea until you have to change your WiFi password. Then maybe you realize a table tent would have done the job just as well.
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Brussels Sprouts Mandela Effect

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I love Brussels Sprouts Mandela Effect; I saw them open for Correct Horse Battery Staple.
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mareino
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TIL!
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112 days ago
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I love Brussels Sprouts Mandela Effect; I saw them open for Correct Horse Battery Staple.
hairfarmerrich
112 days ago
https://xkcd.com/936/

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